10 Traits of Neurodiverse Children
A parent once told me, “My daughter notices everything. She gets stuck on little things, loves facts, and she flaps her hands when she’s overwhelmed. I think her brain just works differently.”
I knew exactly what she meant. As a tutor and neurodiversity advocate, I hear stories like this all the time. Whether it’s a child who thrives in one-on-one settings, one who can’t cope with noisy mornings, or one who becomes an expert on dinosaurs in a matter of weeks—these differences can be both beautiful and challenging.
When we understand the traits of neurodiverse (or ‘neurospicy’) children, we can better support them—both at home and in the classroom.
Here are 10 traits I often see in the amazing kids I work with.
1. Strong Self-Awareness
Many neurodivergent children are highly attuned to how they’re feeling—even if they don’t always have the words to explain it. They might notice when they’re overwhelmed, frustrated, or excited long before anyone else does.
2. Passionate About Special Interests
Whether it’s trains, space, insects, or a particular video game, neurospicy children often develop deep, focused interests. These passions aren’t just hobbies—they’re a way of learning, regulating, and expressing themselves.
3. Personal Rules and Routines
You might notice a child has strong preferences or specific rules they live by—like always wearing socks a certain way or needing their pencil case arranged “just so.” These rules can provide comfort and predictability in a world that often feels chaotic.
4. Sensory Sensitivities
Loud noises, bright lights, strong smells—these everyday things can be overwhelming for a neurodiverse child. One of my students would flap her hands when she felt stressed, especially in noisy environments. Rather than seeing this as a “problem,” we can understand it as a self-regulation strategy.
5. Focused Attention to Detail
Neurodiverse children often notice things others miss. They might pick up on inconsistencies, remember small facts, or be thrown off by something that seems minor to everyone else. While this can sometimes lead to frustration or “getting stuck,” it’s also a sign of a highly observant mind.
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I talk through each of these traits (and more) in a video over on my YouTube channel, Different… and Loving It! It’s a gentle, informative resource for anyone who loves or supports neurodiverse kids.
When we understand the traits of neurodiverse people, we can see our students more clearly—and support them in ways that truly work.
Whether you’re a parent, carer, teacher, or tutor, this understanding makes all the difference.
Let’s create environments where kids can thrive because of who they are—not in spite of it.